What your Dom can see, and what he cannot

A D/s dynamic has a deliberate information asymmetry. What it must not be is a surprise asymmetry. Here is where things stand.

What your Dom always sees (with a bond)

• Your tasks: state, submissions and whether you delivered on time.
• Your active challenges and your checks.
• Your chastity, if he controls it: counter, checks, logged breaches.
• Your punishments and their proof.
• Your reputation (if you show it) and your honours.
• Your declared practices and limits — that is exactly what they are for.

What he sees only if you enable it

• Your conversations with third parties — only if he is your Owner, only if you enabled supervision, and only from the moment he activates it. With a permanent notice for both of you and for the person you are talking to.
• Control of your chastity — only if you enable Let my Dom control my chastity.
• The place of a location check-in — at the precision you choose: category, map with no names, or exact spot.
• Your chastity counter on your profile — and even then, only the time: never who controls it nor the end date.

What he never sees

• Your real name, your email and your payment details.
• Your reference GPS coordinates.
• The detail of an emergency release.
• The contents of your private gallery.
• Your conversations from before you enabled supervision — nor those after you withdrew it, even if you grant it again: withdrawing rotates the key.

What not even we see

The content of your messages. They are end-to-end encrypted with keys derived from your password, which we do not have. The only exception is the one you open yourself: attaching a specific range of a conversation to an abuse report.

The underlying rule

Everything that widens what someone else sees of you is opt-in, announced and revocable. If somebody presents any permission on this list as compulsory, they are describing the platform wrong.